Getting a child to listen is a challenge, but there are precautions you can take that can dramatically improve how your child reacts to you. Children are often focused on what happens "Right now," so it is often difficult to get them to a future event or the reason you've stopped playing a very important game to understand. Learn to speak in a way that they will react and find ways to positive rather than negative ones could really help to not only improve listening skills in your household, but also improve the relationship with your child.
- Listen to what your child tells you. If you expect your child to really hear you, first you really need to hear properly. This is called active listening.
- Stop what you do when the child speaks, upgrade to the child to make eye contact and full attention to what they say.
- Acknowledge what they say with a good answer. Do not say "OK", "mm ..."," law." If the child has a sense of frustration or anger against something, try to work through it with words. For example, if said he, "I want to watch Superman on TV right now," and you try desperately to prepare for school, not just respond by saying: "No," said: "I understand that you want to watch Superman on television, but it is time for school now and you do not want to be late. "Or if you have a video / DVD recorder, for example," What would I save Superman and you can see after school?
Change how you talk
- How you talk to the child is very important.How you talk to the child is very important.
- Get the child to repeat what you just said. If it can not, you can have it made too difficult. Do not get frustrated, try again, rewrite your sentence and ask him what you say.
- Choose your words carefully. For example, using the word "when" rather than "if." A child feels he has a choice, if you say: "When you have finished storage, you can have a lollipop," it sounds much better than, "If you finish tidying, you can have a lollipop. "Instead of saying," Get off the table, "said," I want you to get off the table. " Children want to please, and say you want or if you want them to do something can work at that level.#
- Make your sentences for you. If you want the child to pick up their toys, do not say, "Will you pick up your toys?" It's inviting a discussion, but rather say: "Pick up your toys, please."
- Do not shout. If you cry, they cry. Shouting or aggressive tone will not help your child to be careful. Speak in an even voice control even when you're angry, you should try to remain calm. Take deep breaths and count to 10, if necessary, but being in control.
- Being positive will help you stop saying
- Being positive will help you stop saying "No"
- Explain why a child can not do something. It is not good to simply say, "No, you can not." A child is curious and understand the reasons are important. A good example is if the child tries to run on the road, do not just say: "Do not run into the street." Say: "We do not run on the road because it is very dangerous the cars go very fast and could have hurt you, then bring the child to look at cars and say, "You saw how fast this car was going? "
- Provide choice, if you say things in a positive way and explain things. Now it's time to let children make decisions, showing that you trust them to do so. When dressing the child ask, "Do you want the green dress or the blue dress?" Do not give multiple-choice can be confusing. Choice can be given in many situations and it is really good for a child to the practice of taking independent decisions.